Below are the main points i wrote.
- Personal freedom is the ability to feel what you want so that the chains of fear, sadness and hate are broken.
- We all have a past. The difference is some take our past and build a better future and some take their past and limited their future.
- Make unpleasant images black and white and make them small. You will feel better.
- Make images of what you feel good about as colourful as possible and big.
- The secret is to take the images in your mind that make you feel bad and make them small and black and white, move them farther away from you and get rid of them. And take the things that make you feel good and make them big, bright and vivid.
- Tragedy exists only in the mind as a terrible memory. A memory is just a representation of an experience. When you change the way you represent an experience, you change how you feel about the experience.
- Brilliance Square. Vision yourself as confident, together with the face expression, clothing wearing , body posture, way you breathe, light in eyes, grace and ease in all movement. Step onto the square which is of the colour of your favourite. Do this visioning 5 times. Builds confidence.
- Use cartoon/ridiculous tones to say negative words……to lessen the significance.
- If we build cheerful, happy and successful habits, we have happy, successful lives. If we are going to build grumpy, disappointed, depressing habits, we just get good at having bad feelings. Happiness is an activity; it’s a skill to master.
- Dalai Lama said that sometimes bad things happen. The key is that you just don’t dwell on them. If you throw a pebble into a pond, it makes ripples for a while, but eventually it smoothes out. When people dwell on things too much, they blow them out of proportion.
- The best thing about the past is that It’s over. The best thing about the present is that it’s a gift, and the best thing about the future is that its full of wonderful opportunities to feel good.
- The one thing in life that you can control is the inside of your head. If someone went into your house and painted horrible picture ion your walls, you wouldn’t leave them. Then why leave bad ideas inside your head? Unwanted negative images or horrible voices…there’s no point.
- If you take charge of your beliefs, you take charge of your life. How many ideas have I believed in that have prevented me from doing better in my life but might not be true? How many times have I given up on things just because I believed I wasn’t good enough to achieve them? How many things have I missed out on because I was convinced that I wouldn’t have them?
- If a person believes that they are successful, it will cause them to act in a successful way, which will make it more likely that they will become successful. Its what we call a self-fulfilling prophecy.
- What you believe determines how you act. How you act determines what results you get, and the results you get determine what your beliefs are. It’s a cycle; beliefs, actions, results, beliefs.
- Better to know what you want to have than what you want to lose.
- 2 useful questions: What do you want? And how will you know you have achieved it?
- 2 basic ways to be motivated. One is the urge to move away from pain and the other is the compelling desire to move towards pleasure.
- Learn from your past. See your present as an opportunity for you to do some new things. Look forward to a future that you can create that’s full of possibilities.
- Questions to set goals:
- What do I need to do more of to reach my goal?
- What do I need to do less of to reach my goal?
- What do I need to stop doing to reach my goal?
- What do I need to begin to do to reach my goal?
- How can I change?
- Why do I want to change?
- What will it be like when I have changed?
